Sometimes the people forget that there is a real girl, behind the makeup and the flashy costumes. That the woman you see on screen is not just an insatiable body that wants to fuck with anyone who comes across her. Always with her legs open and not thinking about anything but sex.
And most important, people forget that this girl deserves respect. The character you are seeing on screen belongs to fiction, and once you close the tab on your computer, it disappears. The girl who is writing this text, goes out to buy food, cleans her house and hangs out with friends.
I sometimes cry when I watch a romantic movie, and I get excited when I’m reading a book. I like to close my eyes when I’m listening to “Live in Paris” of Supertramp, and imagine it’s 1969 and I’m lying on the lawn of Woodstock. Basically, I’m a person. Not just a hole to stick a dick.
And you might be wondering, where is this coming from? Well, a few days ago I posted on Instagram a picture with some screenshots of the harassment I get on social media, and also on my personal mail. Every day, hundreds (hundreds!) of people send me aggressive texts, sex proposals and photos of their dicks.
Well, this is something that we all could imagine, right?
But my surprise came when I found out that a lot of comments referred to this as “occupational hazard”. Unfortunate situations I have to deal with, for choosing this job. So they excuse the aggressors, and I have to tolerate this situation.
This is where the alarm went on. Occupational hazard…? Do you really think this comes with the job? Do you really think that I have to stand this?
The moment we normalize these attacks, we are perpetuating its existence. Saying: “It’s normal that they harass me, I’m a porn star” or that this is “part of my job” is terrifying. Terrifying, with all its letters.
Justifying harassment on sex workers only perpetuates the stigma of our profession and a sexist behavior. By apologizing or excusing such actions, we become part of them. Neither I nor anyone else deserves to be treated like that. So please, think about it!
The next time you see such comments, fight them. Make the person feel ashamed of his behavior. If you keep quiet, or excuse them, you are helping to perpetuate it.
I DON’T want to receive pictures of your genitals.
I DON’T want you to send me messages with sex proposals.
I DON’T want aggressive messages.
I want you to talk to me with respect. Just as if you were talking to a person you just met.
But most of all, I want you to start treating me like a person.